Quick! Can you name the distractor implants by heart?  No?  Then there’s a great chance they’re doing their job of distracting YOU from creating the great life you could have.

Distractor implants—anger, rage, fury, hate; blame, shame, regret, and guilt; obsessive, compulsive, addicted, perverted points of view; life, living, sex, and relationship; business, doubt, fear—comprise most of the “issues” most of us deal with every day.  The Access Consciousness approach to handling them is unique—once you are able to identify the distractor implants, dealing with them is easy, almost instant, and effective.  Who wouldn’t like their life to be that easy?

The distractor implants are such a crucial part of what is required to create and maintain the changes in your life that Access Consciousness founder, Gary Douglas, will be requiring a teleclass on the subject for those who wish to facilitate.  This requirement takes place starting with the US facilitators’ class in Costa Rica in August.

The distractor implant call follows the amazing precedent set last year with Gary and Dain’s call on the 10 commandments of Access Consciousness.  What they discovered with last years series is that having 90 minutes on the subject of each commandment allowed them to go in depth in explaining the 10 commandments, what they really mean, and how to apply them in real life.

Participants in the live call, as well as those who purchased it afterwards, have raved about the clarity it provided when Gary and Dain had the time to go in-depth on a key topic.

Just as the 10 commandments call is now a classic, which continues to be required of new people participating in upcoming facilitators’ classes, this call on the distractor implants is expected to become required for some time to come as well.  The call starts this Wednesday, February 8^th (Wed 9^th for those of you in Australia or Europe), and runs for 6 weeks.  If you’d like the opportunity to participate live and ask the questions that stump you on these common topics, the time to sign up for this class is now.

The call will be available for purchase in the future, but of course it will be a recording without the possibility of submitting questions either by email or live.  What if you could live a life free of distractor implants?  Wouldn’t that be a lot more fun?

After three long and strenuous days of final training and orientation, and a lifetime of preparation, Mary Dravis-Parish officially opened the doors of Access for Knowledge Fort Collins Learning Center on Monday, January 16th! That day will see a surge in consciousness and the joy of learning for the students and parents of Fort Collins, Colorado (USA) such as they have never seen, as Mary starts bringing consciousness to learning there.

Mary Dravis-Parish, also an Access Bars Facilitator, is the owner/director of this cutting-edge program which uses tried and tested educational tools infused with Access Consciousness tools to create a joyful and effective learning experience for its students. With over 23 years of educational experience and intense involvement in Access Consciousness programs, Mary brings with her a wealth of experience, awareness, knowing and skill that allows her to address the needs of students of all ages. She possesses a keen awareness which allows her to recognize and address attitudes, behavior and thought patterns that prevent students from a positive and joyful school experience.

Congratulations to Mary for bringing this all together. After having worked closely with her over the last few days and months, we know that the students and parents of Fort Collins will find something that will truly change their lives. How does it get better than that?

Dean Larson, CF Director for Center Development Access for Knowledge, LLC

To find out more about Access for Knowledge, go to: www.accessforknowledge.org or email Dean Larson, CF at: deancfmw@comcast.net

For Fort Collins: email access4knowledgemary@gmail.com, or, FaceBook:www.facebook.com/accessforknowledgefortcollins;

For Access for Knowledge, Sparkill New York: contact Christine DiDomenico, CF, at: accessforknowledge@yahoo.com

“Easy” and “fun” are not the words that come to mind when most people are describing their relationship, but it doesn’t have to be that way, says Access Consciousness™ facilitator Dr. Kacie Crisp.

She is the author of The Little Black Book on Relationships, in which she shares what she’s learned from 27 years with her husband David Caddy.

The two were not necessarily even sitting together when they heard Access Consciousness founder and best-selling author Gary Douglas state, “Relationships are a 24/7 job. It’s a lot of work.”  They simultaneously thought, “Huh?” because it really is their point of view that relationships SHOULD be easy and fun.

Alerted by Douglas that they did things in their relationship quite differently than others, Crisp and Caddy came up with a list of 6 “dos,” things they do in their relationship that others often do not, as well as 6 “don’ts,” things that others do that they do not.

The 6 dos listed by Crisp in her book are:

1. Remember that everything your partner does is just an interesting point of view
2. Be grateful
3. Receive their helpfulness and contribution to your life
4. Live in the present
5. Choose someone you like
6. Look at who you’re with, not who you wish you were with

These tips may sound simple, but they are important components to a successful relationship that many people overlook, says Crisp.  Here’s more information that could empower you to use these tools in your own relationships.

Remember everything your partner does is just an interesting point of view. If you’ve ever moaned, “How could you do this to me?” you have forgotten the first do. What if everything your partner does and has done had nothing to do with you, but was merely an expression of who they are?

This is a radically different way of looking at things for many people, but it is a point of view that actually allows each person in the relationship to be fully themselves.  It allows each person to choose for themselves, without having to censor their choices to please the other person.

If you don’t function from this point of view, but instead take everything your partner says as a message about you and their feelings for you, then you force them to put you first in all of their decisions. While this may sound romantic, giving up yourself eventually wears your lover down, leading to the end of the relationship because they can no longer be themselves.

“Isn’t a relationship where you’re valued for exactly who you are, when you don’t have to be anything else, where you don’t have to impress anyone—isn’t that what everyone longs to come home to?” asks Crisp.

Be grateful. The biggest advantage of gratitude over love is that gratitude can only exist without judgment, whereas love usually includes judgment.  Even “unconditional love” is only unconditional until the other person does something you don’t like, or doesn’t do something you demand.  Then “love” tends to become very conditional indeed.

An additional advantage of not using the word love is the multitude of definitions of it.  If each person is working from some 8 million definitions of the word love, for example, there is statistically only a 1 in 64 million chance that both of you mean the same thing when you exchange those precious words, “I love you.”

A classic example of this miscommunication that occurs with the word “love” is the conversation that meets sex role stereotypes.  “I love you,” says the man, hoping to get sex.  The woman hears that he loves her as she wants to be loved, which usually means a lasting relationship. Both parties think they’re on the same page, when they’re actually meaning something quite different. And the relationship usually goes downhill from there.

In gratitude, on the other hand, you receive everything without judgment and maintain a gratefulness to the person for being in your life. Doesn’t that feel lighter and more fun?

Receive their helpfulness and contribution to your life. Men, in particular, have been trained to “show their love” by doing things. They like to fix things.  If a woman takes this as a judgment on their competence and refuses this contribution, it’s energetically like cutting of his hand, or even more precious part.  It doesn’t leave him with anywhere to go in showing his caring for you.

For both sexes, doesn’t it feel good to be able to contribute something you’re good at to your partner? Don’t they give you a gift when they actually receive it?

Live in the present. This recommendation is designed to remind members of both sexes to avoid the “fast forward” into the future.  A relationship is not a puzzle to be solved, a conclusion to be reached, or a package to be neatly tied up in a bow.  The best indicator of a relationship that can last is whether it’s enjoyable in the present, says Crisp.

All too often people plan everything about the relationship in advance before they can possibly know everything they need to know about the other person. “He took me out to dinner, that means he wants to marry me,” is hardly an over-simplification of this way of thinking.  This tendancy to fast forward leads to trying to force that person to fit into the role you have cast them into.  How honoring of them is that?

Sometimes people set an arbitrary deadline by which they expect things to magically change.  They say things like, “Once we’re married this will work,” or, “Once we have a child he’ll settle down.”  No piece of paper can guarantee a change of behavior—and no child ever made things easier for its parents!  The best predictor of how the relationship will be is how the relationship is.

Look at who you’re with, not who you wish you were with. The more you’re willing to be honest with yourself and your partner about who they are and who you are, the better your chances of the relationship succeeding.  This does NOT mean you have to share everything.  (In fact, one of Crisp’s don’ts is “Don’t share your feelings!”)

What is necessary to be honest with yourself and with your partner about is who you are, what you find important in life over the long term, and values you are not willing to compromise.  If one of you is desperate to have children and the other thinks they’re monsters in disguise, you’re headed for rough waters ahead unless one of you finds their point of view unimportant.

The decision to have a child together especially requires this honesty if all your relationships—between you and your partner, and you and your child, and your child and your partner–are to succeed.  While most decisions can be undone or changed, the person you have a child with is with you forever—their personality, even if neglectful—will show up in your child, often in ways that are even more annoying than they were in your ex.

This relationship do is also a reflection on the futility of holding onto old relationships.  If that past, lost love was really so great, then why are they past and not present?  If you’re holding onto the illusion that any past or fantasized relationship is better than the one you have in the present, sooner or later the time will come that your living, breathing, present partner simply won’t measure up to the fantasy man or woman.   The guy or gal in front of you has one great advantage over everyone you could ever have fantasized about—they’re present and willing to be so, at least until you drive them away with your comparing them to perfection.  Give it up!

Choose someone you like. This is an encouragement to look at the whole person—not just the hot body that attracted you in the first place.  Marriage has many elements of a business relationship, and most of your time will NOT be spent in bed.  Do you value the opinion of the person you’re with?  Do you enjoy their company? Their conversation? Their sense of humor?  All of these will occupy much more of your time and attention than sex and can be deal breakers even when the sex is great.

Do these six recommendations surprise you?  That could be a good thing—it could be an indication that they’re pointing to some ways you’ve been destroying your relationships without realizing it.  The gift of that awareness is that it allows you to change.  After all, if you only do what you’ve always done, you’ll only have the results you’ve got right now.  What if looking at relationships differently could allow you to create what you’ve been asking for for years?

If you wished to have a really great relationship, what would be required to create it?

Gary Douglas, best-selling author and founder of Access Consciousness™, has some deceptively simple ingredients that just might enable you to bake a relationship cake that’s not like many that have been seen on earth before.

Douglas has worked with thousands of couples worldwide and has observed the truth of psychologists’ observation that most people would rather have a bad relationship than no relationship.  A survivor of two marriages himself, he is interested in allowing his clients to become aware of the choices they have available.

Douglas’s latest book is Divorceless Relationships, the target of which is facilitating people to create relationships in which both people become more themselves, rather than one or both having to divorce themselves in order to maintain the relationship.

He is also co-author with his business partner, Dr. Dain Heer, of Sex Is Not A Four Letter Word But Relationships Often Times Is.

Are you ready to try a new recipe?   Here are Douglas’s magical ingredients, together with a short explanation of how find them.

The five components of an intimate relationship are:

1. Allowance
2. Honor
3. Gratitude
4. Trust
5. Vulnerability.

Allowance means everything your partner does it just an interesting point of view.  It’s not subject to your evaluation or judgment or criticism or revision, and it’s not a reflection on you.  It is also not significant or important—it’s just their way of looking at the world in this particular moment.

Honor means to treat with regard.  You don’t “diss” your partner, you don’t criticize or insult or judge him or her.  You treat them with a value equal to yourself at all times.

Gratitude includes being grateful to your partner for showing up in your life, whatever that looks like and whatever they’re doing.  If you’re judging them or thinking they should be different—that’s judgment, not gratitude.  True gratitude has no room in it for judgment.

Trust is to know that the other person is going to do and be what they’re going to do and be, until and unless they decide to change.  Trust requires looking at who the person really is—not who you wish they would be.

Trust is not blind faith. Blind faith is “I know everything will turn out all right” because you want it to.  That is not trust!  Trust is the alcoholic will drink until she decides to quit, the philanderer will philander until he decides not to.

Vulnerability has been described as being like the open wound.  It can be excruciating when the air blows over it.  Without vulnerability, however, you have to have barriers and defenses up which keep your partner from knowing you.  This can create a loneliness greater than not having a relationship at all.  Without being vulnerable, you cannot receive the gifts and love and support your partner could be offering.

You will notice there are also a couple of usually taken-for-granted ingredients missing from this recipe—love and copulation. There is a reason about why they are specifically NOT included in this unusual cake.

Douglas uses gratitude instead of love, and recommends those interested in a tasty relationship cake use it as well.  One reason for this is that there are so many definitions of love.  The chances that two people using the word mean anywhere near the same thing are infinitesimally small.

A second reason Douglas discourages the use of the word and concept of love is that he has found it always includes judgment.  “But what about unconditional love?” the spiritual types always ask.

How long does what is proclaimed to be unconditional love really last?  Usually only until the other person says or does something you don’t like, or doesn’t do something you demand.  At that point your “love” tends to become very conditional indeed.

The second commonly purchased ingredient that is not included in Douglas’s recipe is what he calls copulation—putting the body parts together.  Putting the body parts together is not intimacy in Douglas’s opinion.  It’s just putting the body parts together.

Douglas’s points of view on copulation itself are equally unconventional—but that’s a story for another day. If you would like to check them out, then Sex Is Not A Four Letter Word But Relationships Often Times Is may have what you’re looking for.

There’s one more little piece of information you require to mix these ingredients into a really yummy relationship cake—you have to have all of these ingredients of intimacy for yourself first.

Are you ready to start cooking?

Have you been diligently determining your purpose so you can manifest what you’ve been asking for?  How well has that been working?

Best selling author, world-wide seminar leader, and Access Consciousness™ founder Gary Douglas says purpose rarely gives us the results we think it will.

How so?  The very fixed quality of purpose installs it in your being as a constant source of judging you.  All judgments limit everything you can receive—including money and even your own success at achieving your very purpose.  Cute, eh?

So is there a better way?  Douglas suggests using the word and concept of  priority instead of purpose.  It doesn’t mean you have to change what your targets are in life, it simply means giving it a different energy. A purpose is a standard against which you must always judge yourself.  Like all judgments, it is not true, and that’s just one reason why you can’t even accomplish it. A priority has an openness and flexibility that allows you to use and act by it, or change it as you choose.

Douglas’s business partner and frequent co-author, Dr. Dain Heer, felt like throwing in the towel in the middle of one of his seminars.  He was doing what he normally loved to do, but was so disheartened he felt like cancelling the seminar and giving everyone their money back.  “I was stuck up to my ears in purpose,” he recalls.

Douglas recognized what was happening and asked Heer what his purpose was.  “To bring people to consciousness,” he replied.

The judgment this created was constant—Heer recognized he was constantly judging himself based on whether people in his classes chose consciousness.

“What if consciousness were your priority instead?” Douglas continued.

Heer’s world immediately expanded.  “If it were my priority, it would be like a lighthouse shining a light anywhere there was something valuable for me.  It would be a guiding light but I wouldn’t have to judge myself if it didn’t happen.”

Having a purpose is about everything we’re taught in this reality.  It’s also a mainstay of many self-improvement and spiritual approaches.  Sometimes these go even further into the limiting land of judgment by looking for “higher purpose.”  How is that possible without further judgment of which purpose is higher than another?

Untangling ourselves from this sticky web of the limitations of purpose can take time.  Heer, a changeaholic, worked on it for weeks.  We buy the lie that our choices, for example, can only be based on our purpose.    It’s a trap we cannot get out of, like all lies.  If you find yourself feeling responsibility for someone else, that too is based on your having bought that’s your purpose.

There are many ways we can get trapped further into purpose.  We might start out with the priority, that flexible light that allows us change, question, possibility, contribution, and choice, but that very priority can get twisted into a purpose, which instantly limits us.

We may be doing something from priority and be great at it—only to be acknowledged for it.  That very acknowledgment can slam us back into the limitations of purpose; the judgment that accompanies that can destroy the very ability to create phenomenally that we were acknowledged for in the first place!

If we’re looking for motivation—an outside source to make us do what we think we should do—we’re functioning from purpose.  In fact, whenever there’s a “should” attached to anything, that’s a surefire indicator that there’s purpose lurking not very far in the background of what you’re struggling to get free of.

Yet another way to stick ourselves with purpose is to align and agree with our priorities, or make them significant—that instantly locks us into purpose instead of priority.

In many ways, the difference between purpose and priority is analogous to the difference between goals and targets.  Douglas and Heer advise against setting goals, because they like purposes lock you into judgment.  The difficulty with a goal is that it locks you into that goal forever.

This jail-like quality of goals is responsible for many a lost fortune.  What occurs is that somewhere in some lifetime, people set a certain amount of money as a goal.  If they reach that goal but fail to acknowledge it, they will be compelled to lose the money, only to work again over and over again to attain it again because they were locked into that goal forever.  Ironically, in some countries like Scotland and Australia, jail is still often spelled “gaol,” remarkably similar to goal.

Instead of setting goals, Douglas and Heer recommend setting targets.  Like a priority, a target can be changed and moved, and you can shoot at it again and again while always being free to change it.

That very willingness and ability to change can actually contribute to your achieving your targets—and your New Year’s resolutions.  Douglas and Heer recommend making choices in “ten second increments.”  The value of this is that it frees you from the burden of making “the right choice.”  When a choice is only good for 10 seconds, you are free to change it if you don’t like what it creates in your life.

The very act of choosing creates awareness, Douglas and Heer point out.  “Choice creates awareness, awareness does not create choice,” they say.  It makes a mockery of our usual tendency to analyze (anal-ise?) endlessly trying to get “the right choice.”  Douglas calls this the “Lord of the Rings choice—one choice to end them all.”

If a choice is only good for 10 seconds, the burden of making the right choice—and judging ourselves endlessly to determine the right choice—vanishes.  Doesn’t that feel lighter?

What if you were to approach those New Year’s resolutions with the lightness of priorities, the freedom of choice in 10 seconds, the flexibility of a target instead of a goal?  Would creating your life in 2012 be a lot more fun?

Now having fun just could be a purpose you could get behind!

Is it time to question our reliance—some would say, over-reliance—on antidepressants to ease the pain of depression, which seems to be so common these days?

A 2010 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that anti-depressants such as Paxil are only effective for the most severely depressed patients.  Only the most severely depressed were even included in the studies, and only the most depressed among those were found to benefit from the medication.

Is the public being subjected to false advertising?  “The important feature of this evidence base is not reflected in the implicit messages present in the marketing of these medications to clinicians and the public,” said the researchers, who studied the results of 6 different studies on the effectiveness of anti-depressant medications.

Despite warnings from experts and research showing anti-depressants aren’t effective except in the most severe cases, usage of feel good pills is booming.  Between 1996 and 2005, prescription of antidepressants in the US more than doubled, from 13 million to 27 million.  Drug companies quadrupled their spending on direct-to-consumer advertising between 1999 and 2005.  Drug companies spent $122 million dollars a year in 2005 to sell $10 billion worth of anti-depressant drugs in 2009.

Why should an alternative to having a tenth of the American population on mood-altering drugs be considered?  Our current situation could bear an uncanny resemblance to the drugged and controlled populace described by Aldous Huxley in 1984. In his novel, the public was so addicted and pleased with their use of the drug Huxley called soma that they failed to notice their freedoms and rights were being callously stolen by their own government.

In “My Chemical Romance,” a story of getting off the anti-depressants he’d been using for 10 years without ever demonstrating a clinical need for them, writer Chris Norris describes his months long struggle to live a drug-free existence. Psychiatrist Peter Greggin and sociologist David Karp found that using these drugs can in effect burn out the body’s own ability to produce serotonin, which is essential in preventing depression.  In other words, taking anti-depressants could make you much more depressed than you were to start with, if you ever stop taking them.

If there were a cure—or at least treatment–for depression that was effective, had no side effects, and could be used by anyone interested, wouldn’t that merit trying?

Practitioners of an Access Consciousness™ hands on method called “Access Bars™” say there is.  Dr. Dain Heer, Co-Creator of Access Consciousness™, publicly credits his first bars session with permanently curing him of suicidal depression.  Then a struggling doctor, he used to lie in bed in the mornings planning the date for his own suicide.  At his first bars session, he giggled non-stop and never contemplated suicide again.

While the results are not necessarily so instantly dramatic for everyone, Gary Douglas, the discoverer of the Bars and founder of Access Consciousness, states, “The worst that can happen is that you’ll feel more relaxed than after a great massage.  The best that can happen is your whole life can change.”

Whether the results from an individual session are dramatic or not, one doctor who frequently receives the bars reports the bars absolutely work for stress relief.  “Whatever I’m worried about when I lie down on the table, I can’t hold onto it,” she says.  “By the time the hour is up, whatever was bothering me is long gone.  It’s great!”

Those who have tried meditation with or without success report that the stillness and inner peace that they seek while trying to “quiet the mind” in meditation is achievable without effort when someone else touches the specific points on their head.

There are 32 of those points, which are activated by simple light touch so simple a child can learn it.  In fact, often sessions performed by children are more effective than an adult’s because the kids have fewer preconceptions about what is not possible.

Each of the 32 points relates to an issue that causes us difficulty here on earth—money, control, body, sexuality, healing are just a few of them.  Negativity in the form of fixed beliefs, decisions, emotions, and judgments from many lifetimes are electrically stored in these points.  Touching these points releases that stored limitation, magically melting away our limitations on the subject and allowing new possibilities we couldn’t see before to appear.

Several doctors who are experts in biofeedback have reported on the brain wave changes they experienced while receiving the bars.  They reported moving from beta to alpha into theta brain waves, the waves of the deep relaxed state.

You’ve never heard of the bars, you say?  Just how available is this method?  Quite available, it turns out.  There are currently more than 700 licensed facilitators of the bars—people who have been licensed by Gary Douglas to not only perform a bars session on you, but also to facilitate the day long class in which you can learn to do the bars on yourself and others.  These facilitators span 25 countries from the U.S. to India to Turkey to Australia.

Anyone who has completed the bars class once is qualified to perform a session on you if you choose, and Bars classes are offered daily all over the globe.

You can find more information about the Bars, as well as a practitioner near you, by checking the Access Bars™ website, www.bars.accessconsciousness.com.

When we were children, our emotions may have served us by acting as a barometer to let us know when there was a difference between what the adults around us were saying and what was really going on.  Oftentimes, that “gut feeling” was much more accurate than what adults were telling us was going on.

But now that you’re an adult, have your emotions passed their sell-by date?  Are they actually giving you the awareness of what’s going on around you that’s what you were really seeking, or are they adding trauma and drama and lots of stuff to work through to your busy schedule?

Gary Douglas, best-selling author and founder of Access Consciousness™ has a quite different point of view on those valuable feelings.

Douglas is not the only one seeing a limitation in emotions.  David Brooks, a columnist writing in the International Herald Tribune November 30, 2011, asked people over 70 to send him “life reports,” essays about their lives and what they’d done poorly and well.

Based on the life stories he received, Brooks observed, “Beware rumination.  There were many long, detailed essays by people who are experts at self-examination.  They could finely calibrate each passing emotion.  But these people often did not lead the happiest or most fulfilling lives…Through self-obsession, they seemed to reinforce the very emotions, thoughts, and habits they were trying to escape.”

Plenty of medical research documents the effect of our emotions on our physical health.  People who are usually happy, enthusiastic, and content are less likely to develop heart disease, according to Europe’s leading cardiology journal, European Heart Journal, in a study published February 2010.

Marcelle Pick, nurse practitioner writing on the website women to women.com, calls emotional experience a greater factor in physical health than genetics, exposure to infection, or lifestyle.

In Douglas’s view, “The only thing an infinite being should feel is joy, bliss and ecstasy.” Since most of us either don’t acknowledge we are infinite beings, or don’t act like we are most of the time, it’s no surprise that joy, bliss and ecstasy are not yet running rampant on the planet.

As Douglas sees it, thoughts, feelings, and emotions are the lower harmonic of what an infinite being does, which is to perceive, know, and be.  Emotion is the lower harmonic of being; thought is the lower harmonic of knowing; and feeling is the lower harmonic of knowing.

If we stood up and saluted ourselves as infinite beings, would all those emotions that are adding so many struggles to our lives go away instantly?  Not necessarily.  It’s a process.  But Douglas has some phenomenal tools to clear away a lot of what’s getting bogged down with your own and others’ emotions and distracting you from creating what you’d really like to have in life.

Many emotions that run soap opera plots and our daily lives are what Douglas calls distractor implants. They are points of view and judgments that we bought from others.  We have been acting as if they’re true ever since.  The purpose of distractor implants is to keep us from seeing the great and unlimited quality of us.

The distractor implant emotions are anger, rage, fury, hate; blame, shame, regret, and guilt; obsessive, perverted, compulsive and addictive points of view; love, sex, relationships, jealousy.  These emotions cannot be handled, assuaged, relieved, changed, or ameliorated.  Their only purpose is to distract you from the greatness that you can be.

So if you find yourself in the middle of these emotions, how can you change the situation?  First of all, recognize that you are witnessing distractor implants in action.  None of what’s being expressed with such emotion is real or resolvable. Once you recognize these distractor implants, all you have to do is ask for all the secret stuff underneath them that’s keeping them all in place, and destroy and uncreate it all.  (Uncreate has a slightly different energy than destroy; it makes the erasing of them more complete.)

Sound too weird to be true? Well, let me ask you this: How well does anger management actually work?  Have you ever seen guilt or regret resolved?  Is the jealous person ever satisfied, or does another excuse for their jealousy arise almost instantly?

There is one time that it’s appropriate for an infinite being to feel angry.  That situation is when someone is lying to you.  If you’re having a conversation with someone—or reading an email—and you find yourself suddenly feeling enraged for no apparent reason when you were previously in a fine mood, you could ask, “Where is the lie here, spoken or unspoken?”  If the anger dissipates as soon as you ask that question, that’s an indication there’s a lie you’re being told. The lie tends to be more often unspoken than spoken. Your anger was serving as your personal crap detector.

Another aspect contributing to creating the sea of emotions that most people spend much of their lives embroiled in is the recognition that we are much more aware, psychic even, than we have ever acknowledged. As Douglas describes it, we are all walking around like giant Sponge Bobs and Sponge Bobettes, absorbing all the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of others.  Our awareness of them is a good thing; the danger comes in when we misidentify that everything we feel is ours.  “Just because we can feel it doesn’t mean it’s ours,” Douglas points out.

Are you doubting that you are that psychic?  And by psychic I don’t mean owning a crystal ball and wearing purple robes. Have you ever walked into a room where (unseen and unheard by you) there had been an argument a short time before?  Didn’t you feel that energy?  What did you say?  “I have a lump in my throat,” “I feel nauseous,” “My heart hurts.”  Whenever you say something like that, you are giving your body instruction.  It says, “Okay, I’ll feel nauseous since you ask,” “Okay, I’ll make your heart hurt,” “Oh, you want a lump in your throat?”

One of Douglas’s clients walked into a meeting room where he was conducting a class.  The room had hosted a wedding reception the evening before.  No one ever drinks too much in a wedding reception, right?  Douglas’s client said, “I feel nauseous.”  She ended up lying on the floor and eventually going outside to control “her” nausea.

She could have said, “What am I perceiving here?” or “What’s the awareness I’m having that I’m not acknowledging?”  This could have led to more awareness of what was really going on and prevented her from sticking her own body with the nausea of the drunken wedding revelers.

Part of the difficulty is in language.  One word Douglas recommends we use instead is perceive. “Perceive” is a word that’s seldom used.  We use the word “feelings” to describe the Barry Manilow-type emotions, as well as the more neutral perceptions we’re having of the world around us. This overuse of the word feelings creates lack of clarity and unnecessary suffering in our bodies. As soon as we say we feel something, we make it ours and stick our body with it, like the woman with the nausea.  The word “sense” is another good substitute for the over-used word feeling.

Another potent tool that Douglas has created to assist his clients world-wide in identifying which feelings are actually theirs in the first place is a question:  Who does that belong to?  If you ask the question and perceive a feeling of lightness in your body, your mood, or the world around you, that’s a great indication that what you’re perceiving is an awareness of what someone around you is feeling, not you.  This is true even if the lightness persists only for a nanosecond and the heavier feeling returns.

If you feel lighter when you ask the question, the thought, feeling, or emotion in question is not yours.  Quote Elvis: ask it to “return to sender.”  If it comes back, if you feel yourself swimming in that ugly soup again, destroy and uncreate all your decisions to buy that psychic debris as yours when it wasn’t.

Would you like to upgrade your feelings to joy, bliss, and ecstasy?  The tools discussed above can greatly facilitate you in doing so:

• When you find yourself feeling something, ask “Who does this belong to?”  If it’s light, it’s not yours!
• Another great question is, “What am I perceiving here that I’m not acknowledging?”
• When you find yourself feeling angry, ask “Where is the lie here, spoken or unspoken?”
• Whenever the distractor implants come up (anger, rage, fury, hate, blame, shame, regret, guilt, obsessive, compulsive, addictive, perverted points of view, doubt, fear, jealousy) ask the universe to destroy and uncreate everything underneath that.

In this reality OCD, ADD, ADHD, Dyslexia and Autism are called disabilities, in Access we look at them as abilities. We ask you to consider; what if there is truly nothing wrong with them?

We don’t call them disabled at all, we call them highly able and we are the disabled ones. We call them “X-Men,” like the movie, they have talents and abilities beyond our wildest imagining. These kids and adults are a lot more conscious than we give them credit for. They are different and they function differently. We are the ones who need to change to communicate in a way that is natural to them. Access gives you the awareness and tools to do that.

“These children are a gift, highly able and as I’m sure you are quite aware, different. It is my perception that we can change those considered disabled into highly functional people who go beyond the norm in a very short period of time, probably a year to two, some even more quickly. What are the infinite possibilities?” ~ Gary Douglas. Founder of Access Consciousness™

Note from Jill McCormick:

Hi! I am a licensed Speech-Language Pathologist and Local Assistive Technology Specialist that has been working in the public school system for over 15 years! I work with all ages and encounter a cornucopia of labels on a regular basis. It’s a good thing that I never buy a label or a diagnosis! Otherwise I might not have seen the magic that was right before my eyes!

Gratitude,
Jill McCormick
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What one-quarter of the public dreads most about the holidays is travel.  Could consciousness make this easier?

It may seem counterintuitive if you’ve been a student of the metaphysical types who recommend such steps as “closing down your crown chakra when you enter the subway so you won’t absorb that bad energy.”

However, Access Consciousness founder and best-selling author, Gary Douglas, advocates increasing your consciousness and awareness to ease your holiday travel and the rest of your life.

“Is there such a thing as ‘bad energy’ and ‘good energy’?” he asks.  “No, there’s only energy!”  Being as aware of it as possible can definitely ease your holiday travel blues.  Judging which energy you wish to accept and not accept as good or bad locks you into judgment, which diminishes your awareness.  Being as aware as possible can actually contribute to creating the smoothest possible journey, Douglas has found

If it’s airline or travel industry employees you’re dealing with, Douglas recommends pulling energy from them.  You don’t have to visualize, you just have to ask energy to flow from them towards you.  It may surprise you, but the feeling of having your energy pulled is experienced as pleasurable by most people.  Madonna and Angelina Jolie pull energy like crazy.  We get the feeling of having our energy being pulled by watching them, and that’s one of the reasons we enjoy being their audience.

Airline and travel industry employees get plenty of angry energy pushed at them all day long, especially when there are travel delays and other complications.  Douglas, who travels extensively teaching seminars worldwide, has found that pulling energy and being conversational, very polite, and asking questions can accomplish a lot.  “Everyone who approaches these people is angry, and none of them ask questions,” he has noticed.  When he approaches their desks, he turns on a megawatt smile, says hello, and asks them how they are doing. He pulls energy from them, which gives them the feeling of being received rather than being battered.

If you’re willing to consider that you might really have magical powers, you could try your hand at calming air turbulence.  This only works if you’re not vested in the outcome, but it is amazingly easy to do.  If the fasten seatbelt light comes on and the air gets choppy, just project a feeling of level calmness outside the plane in all directions.  Chances are good that the ride will calm down and you’ll soon forget it was ever turbulent.

For all of these methods to work, it is most helpful if you are not vested in the outcome.

Douglas and his business partner, Dr. Dain Heer, learned the importance of not being vested in the outcome the hard way on one trip home from Australia.  They had been working flat out for 30 days and decided they deserved to fly home business class.  They tried to upgrade their coach seats using miles on every airline where they were frequent flyers, all to no avail.  Only by being a new ticket at the last minute full fare were they going to be upgraded.

They noticed they were being vested in the outcome and changed what they were asking for.  “What if we asked for the greatest trip home we could possible have?” they asked instead.  They did not get their upgrades, but they spent an enjoyable uninterrupted time together on the trip, and had the only empty seat in the whole plane between them.

What would it take for your holiday travels to be the greatest trip you ever had?

What happens when you encounter a space of blankness in your life, when you do not have an answer?  Do you rush to conclusion and do your best to tie all those annoying loose ends up in a knot as fast as possible so as to avoid being uncomfortable?

Would you consider that your longing for that nice neat answer and having everything neatly resolved could be preventing you from having everything you’ve been wanting?

This may be a different point of view for you, but then, a different point of view is one of the things Access Consciousness™ founder and best-selling author Gary Douglas is most known for.

The blank space is where all things are possible because nothing has been eliminated by your conclusions or judgments. Douglas calls it the “blankness of creation” because it is the space from which you can actually create everything you’ve been desiring.  And he does mean everything—this applies to money, the relationship you’re looking for, the change in your body you’d like to have.

The blankness of creation is being willing to sit with the energy that you cannot define until it exposes itself as an energy that you can refine.  The blankness is a lack of answer that is the beginning of awareness.

“I don’t know” is the one thing you are asked not to say in an Access Consciousness class.

We’re taught from the time we can talk to look for answers.  We’re rewarded at home and school for cleverly coming up with “the right answer” that agrees with the adults around us.

Douglas has a broader definition of answer than you may ever have considered.  An answer is anything that is a conclusion or a judgment because all of these block your awareness of anything that doesn’t match or agree with them.

Anything that ends with a period or full stop, in other words, is an answer.  And plenty of sentences that end with a question are nothing more than statements or answers with question marks attached to the end of them.

The purpose of questions as he recommends them is not answer, says Douglas.  The point of a question is to create awareness.  Sometimes it takes hanging out in that blank space to allow that awareness to surface.  This requires cultivating patience.

“The difficulty is that you all think that impatience is just a flower,” he wryly observes.

When you say, “I don’t know,” you are really lying to yourself, Douglas points out.  “I don’t know” is a lie because, as an infinite being, is there really anything you don’t know?  Whenever you buy a lie, even if it’s your own, you create an area in your life in which you cannot get clear.

Instead of saying, “I don’t know,” when asked a question, Douglas says, “I don’t have an answer for you right now.”  When making that reply, he is acknowledging the potential of the blank space he’s willing to live in.  From that blank space, awareness can occur, if he’s willing to sit with it long enough.

Even when we ask questions, we often do not use these questions to create awareness, unfortunately.  Instead of asking questions that truly create awareness, we tend to ask questions that give us the sense that everything’s going to turn out fine, or reinforce the answer that we’ve already decided is correct.  In Douglas’s book, these are not really questions.

In failing to ask and live as the question, we block our own awareness.  That awareness has the ability to transform the solidity—including the lack and “stuckness” of our lives.