What if what you had been considering your problems were really possibilities?
What if your problems were a reflection of your demand for everything you’ve always known was possible to show up?
These questions came up in Dr. Dain Heer’s recent Symphony of Possibilities class. While it could sound like some standard recycled positive thinking claptrap, Heer’s questions really came from a vastly different space.
Heer’s awareness started with an observation by his communications coordinator, Katarina Wallentin. Heer recalls her saying to him, “If what you say about problems were really true for you, you’d be a really shitty facilitator. But as you work your way through the problems, you actually birth possibilities.”
From Wallentin’s observation and some points of view expressed in his first full-length Symphony of Possibility class, Heer realized that “What happens (for those he works with) is that the things that you look at that you think are problems are actually your doorways to possibilities. The things that you have looked at as problems are really the things that you want to change. What you have called your problems are actually doorways to possibilities.
This is more than merely spouting an affirmation of the effect that “All my problems magically turn into possibilities now!” It’s a realization that so many of us have been confusing ourselves by mis-identifying what we’d like to change, what we know could be more and better, as a problem.
Heer has done this himself. He recalls, “You have no idea how many times I thought I was f***** up because I was in the middle of some twisted mess, based on my willingness to believe I had a problem, which was based on my demand that I get out of it.”
“Your belief that you have all these problems sticks you so much because you don’t, it’s a lie. It’s not about problems. It’s about possibilities you can’t yet find your way to choose. You’re asking the question so you can get to the possibilities now.”
“Because you’re making the demand for something different you’re having these things called problems show up. People who don’t want anything else don’t have any problems.” How cool are you for being willing to have problems?
Sometimes questions and shares during classes demonstrate the same confusion. “When someone asks about a problem, the reason it can feel strange or weird or off is that what’s really going on is that there’s a potency there that they’ve twisted into this thing they call a problem.”
If you find yourself getting angry at these speakers, it’s actually appropriate. That’s because the one time it’s appropriate for an infinite being to get angry is when someone is lying to you. That anger allows you to spot the lie and change it when you spot it.
The lie you’re reacting to is that the speaker has a problem. What’s actually occurring is “there’s a potency they’re uncomfortable having or being and they don’t understand it so they twist it into a problem so they can get the clarity about the potency.”
There are no stupid questions. If you have a question you need to ask to propel yourself into the possibilities that you are, that’s a valid question.
Heer says to those bold enough to show up in his classes, “It’s time for the people who look at you and say, ‘Why do you have so many problems?’ to be irrelevant in your life because you realize they just don’t desire anything greater.
“From now on,” Heer told the Santa Barbara class, “you don’t have problems! What you do have is things you’d like to change so you can be the possibility you’re here to be, so you can be the instrument you’d like to play in the symphony of possibilities you’re here to be.”
“What aspect of you have you been so hesitant to meet that you don’t actually want to go to that space of potency that you be because you know that YOU are there?”