Peace and Calm

by Access Administrator on January 29, 2015

There’s an Access Consciousness Bar called peace and calm.  In general it’s run with two other Bars, kindness and gratitude.  While both kindness and gratitude are often talked and written about, generally because Access uses the terms in very different ways from how this reality uses them, peace and calm don’t seem to get much attention.  So what do peace and calm mean to you?  Does it bring up images of someone meditating in a cave, or perhaps a calm sea or even the opposite of war?  If peace and calm were to show up in your life, what would that look like?

Many people have the idea that peace and calm can only show up when everyone is happy and is aligning and agreeing with one another. It’s also seen as something that needs to be worked for like “world peace”.  For many individuals, peace and calm are often experienced as fleeting feelings that they cannot hope to hold onto because the world is so frenetic.

Both peace and calm are generally associated with the idea that it’s what’s going on outside of ourselves that determines what we can have and be on the inside. Unfortunately this makes us the effect of circumstances rather than master of ourselves.  It’s what’s behind “you made me feel this way”, and similar phrases that put the responsibility on others.

What if there is truly a different possibility?  What if you could have peace and calm as a choice no matter what was going on around you or in anywhere in the world?  What if you could be around people who were going into trauma/drama and still maintain a sense of peace and calm?

Most of us are not shown or taught that peace and calm can be a choice for anyone in any given moment.  In fact many people are accused, especially as children, of “disturbing” or “upsetting” others or situations.  Were you blamed for upsetting the peace? For disturbing your mother or father or sister or bother?  Did anyone ever tell you that all of those family members could have chosen peace and clam in any given moment? Peace and calm are not a commodity that you can disturb.  They are both a choice that anyone can make or choose not to make.  Those who do not make the choice tend to blame others for their “feelings”.

In the same vein, “peace” is not something to “fight for”. This reality defines peace as something external that you have to go to war about or have lots of conferences about.  There’s a sense that it can be legislated and forced into existence.  How well has that worked throughout history?  This is “peace” as an Access Consciousness distractor implant.  A distractor implant an idea or an emotion that is designed to distract us from awareness and what’s really going on. As long as people are fighting for peace on the outside, they can never have it within them.  Fighting for peace involves so much judgment that it just creates more resistance to true peace.

Some people have asked why “peace” and “calm” are grouped together as an Access Consciousness Bar, and/or what the difference is between them.  Calmness is available when you are willing to not allow what’s going on outside have an effect on you.  It’s a willingness to not allow anything to disturb you.  It’s not about putting barriers up, but rather having all of our barriers down with total interesting point of view about everything and everyone.  The moment we make something significant, we forfeit the possibility of calmness.  Being calm is a choice.  Being at peace or having a sense of peace is also a choice.  We choose peace when we don’t require ourselves or anyone else or circumstances to be other than what they are.  The moment you go into judgment, you can no longer have access to peace.  True peace is total allowance for everyone’s choices, including our own.  One of the great things about choosing peace and calm, is that it allows you to be aware of what’s actually going on without any filters of judgment.  From that vantage point you can make much clearer and informed choices.  (Have you noticed that choices made from a high emotional and reactive state rarely work out?)

Choosing peace and calm does not mean you become zombie like  or that you allow others to mistreat you. Choosing peace and calm allows you to be present in a way that you may never have been, and if someone is being a jerk to you, you will know how to handle it without going into resistance and reaction. Choosing peace and calm is also not about being passive. For example, if you are on an airplane and there is a baby screaming, you don’t have to “just put up with it”. From a space of peace and calm you can do some clearings and most babies will stop crying fairly quickly.  You will be amazed at how much more power and potency is available to you when you function from this space. It’s really all about an energy you can choose to be that will create much more ease in your life.  Is it time for you to choose peace and calm?

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Are You Willing To Be Kind To You?

by Access Administrator on January 28, 2015

What does kindness mean to you?  Sometimes people grow up in an atmosphere where there is little kindness, and it can seem like a foreign concept. Was that true for you?  Would you be willing to learn more about kindness and make it part of your everyday life? It may be easier than you’ve ever imagined, and it’s not self indulgence! Being kind to ourselves is actually being kind to the world. Kindness creates an expansive energy that allows for more joy, more possibilities and more ease. Kindness can show up in many ways, but it always has an energy of ease, of gifting to another and of generosity of spirit. What would your life be like if you were kind to yourself every day?

Here are some tips for creating more kindness in your life:

If kindness has not been very present in your life, begin by noticing when others are being kind. Perhaps a mother is soothing and gifting to her child, or someone is playing with and showing affection to their dog. Notice the energy. Is it something your would like more of in your life? You might ask questions like: Am I open to receiving this kind of energy?, or Where have I been kind or received kindness that I haven’t acknowledged? The trick here is to not judge yourself!  If you have not experienced much kindness, it may take awhile to

Being kind to you is making a commitment to not judge yourself or your body.  Judgment is always destructive and contractive.  Judgment is also arbitrary.  There is no truth in it; it’s just someone else’s point of view. What would your life be like if you didn’t judge yourself?  You can practice by giving yourself a judgment free day or even a judgment free hour.  When you find yourself judging yourself just say: “I’m sorry judgment, this is a judgment free day.  You can come back tomorrow.”  What might that create?

If someone is judging you, remember that people only accuse you of what they are doing.  It’s never about you! How does it get any better than that?

Consider letting go of all standards.  Standards are also arbitrary.  What happens if you have a standard of “being nice to everyone”? Could that allow others to treat you like a doormat?  Being kind to ourselves includes not allowing ourselves to be abused by others.  It’s about honoring ourselves in every situation.

Be willing to know what you know even if everyone else disagrees with you.  We’ve all been under pressure to ignore what we know to be true in favor of what others tell us about who we are, what we can and cannot do, what we should believe in, how we should act etc.  What might change if you were willing to honor you by honoring your knowing?  Could this allow the unique gift you be to be more present in the world? Being the different that you are, is not only kind to you, it’s a gift to the world!

What if you had gratitude for yourself and your body?  Gratitude is about noticing and acknowledging what’s right about you and your body rather than what you’ve decided is wrong. Gratitude is always a contribution to kindness.  You might try starting each day by acknowledging  five things you are grateful for in your life and five things you are grateful for about yourself and your body.  Notice if that creates a different energy for our day.

Most of us have long “to do” lists.  We take our lists and make ourselves do as many of the items as we can in one day.  Does that seem kind to you? What if, instead of a “to do” list you asked questions?  Some helpful ones are: “Where can I put my energy now that will create the greatest possibilities? Who am I today and what grand and glorious adventures shall I have? What’s actually required today? What can I be or do to make _______fun to do? What’s possible today that’s beyond anything I’ve ever imagined? Asking questions allows us to become aware of and follow the energy.  The odd thing is, this actually allows more to get done than following the “to do” lists!

Being kind to ourselves is also about the willingness to be aware of what is, rather than what we would like someone or something to be.  It is certainly tempting to fantasize or to pretend that something, like a relationship or a job, is far better or more satisfying than it is.  What if, by acknowledging what actually is, you free yourself to move onto something far greater and more expansive than your current situation?  That is one way to be kind to you and your future!

Often doing things like our taxes or cleaning the house or taking care of car problems is actually a way of being kind to ourselves. Even though the task may not be the most enjoyable one of the day, consider focusing on the ease or beauty or sense of peace it will create for you.

Being kind is also about noticing the people and surroundings of our lives.  Who among friends and family are kind to you?  Who has your back?  Who has gratitude for you and is willing to honor you and your choices? Is the place you live nourishing and supportive of you? Is your work something that you look forward to?  By asking these kinds of questions all of us can begin to get clearer on what is working for us and what isn’t.  This is the first step in being able to make changes that truly honor us.  Yes, you may need to limit your contact with certain people or to let them go. But by doing this, you are telling the universe that you would like more kind people in your life.  If you find your job or home is not a good fit for you, than you can begin to look for something that is.  None of us is obligated to stay in situations that don’t honor us. A couple  useful questions to ask are: Is this person or situation or job or home a contribution to my life?  Is keeping this person or job or home in my life being kind to me?

For so many of us, choosing to be kind to us is something very new.  Would you be willing to begin?  It’s a muscle you can build over time. How might your life change if you made a commitment to be kind to you?

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